Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Ignorance = Bliss?

Ignorance is bliss, or so it's been said; but how blissful is it when it comes to marriage after the honeymoon? Sure, in a perfect world, every part of marriage would be blissful, no doubt; but for all of us in the much more common imperfect world, blissful moments do occur, which means that they are not constantly present.
Perhaps, if ignorance played a significant role in marriage, more blissful moments would come into being; but while sharing every waking and sleeping moment together, it is nigh to impossible to let ignorance take full reign. Being unaware of those idiosyncrasies that you never thought were possible for your "charming one" to possess would definitely make the vows that you vowed more feasible to keep.
Why is it that before marriage, your spouse to be was the perfect creation, and oh what a better place the world would be if only everyone else could be like them? On the wedding day, no one could be more loving, sweet, and of course, more perfect than the one you vowed to spend the rest of your life with. During the honeymoon, it is like living in a dream come true, and that perfect creature becomes more perfect as each unrealistic moment passes. And then it hits both of you: that little word, "reality".
The bills come due, he snores, she doesn't make the bed, he leaves the toilet seat up, she leaves her make-up out; he cannot seem to get those dirty clothes inside the hamper, but like clock work, they end up right outside of it every single time. She grinds her teeth at night, and he has an infatuation with computer games, not to mention she leaves her hair in the shower, in the sink, and all over the bathroom floor. Why he won't brush his teeth before he comes to bed is inexplicable, and he cannot comprehend why you insist on wearing those green face peels every other night. Oh the joys of sharing life with the most perfect person in the world! Oh wait! Perfection? After the honeymoon, that is no longer a word in anyone's vocabulary. But despite all of these things that given a chance for ignorance to wipe away would make marriage blissful, let's not forget those things that do give us one of those moments more often than not, if only we would see them.
To wake up with the one who would do anything in the world for you, or to go to bed with the one who would give up any pleasure just to see a smile light up your face; to receive a phone call during the day just to tell you how much you are loved, or to look across a crowded room and catch the eye of the one who just in that glimpse knows exactly what you are thinking; to get a wink that says you are mine, and I wouldn't want anyone else; to have someone to share your dreams, ideas, and goals with; to have a shoulder to cry on, and arms to hold you close; to have someone to be part of you and your world forever no matter what the circumstances, not because they have to, but because you are the most precious possession they have. To be ignorant of these things in a marriage would be tragic, and for some reason they make the bliss of marriage beam brighter than all of the imperfections.
So, answer it for yourself. Is ignorance bliss? In marriage, definitely not!

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